We live in a life of tangibility. Where everything represents that which is unseen. For the unseen is what is real and the tangibility of life is what we limited humans have to associate it with.
Christopher West once said our bodies are the tangible representatives of who we are. This meaning, we are defined by our personalities, our hearts, our minds and how we think. Unfortunately what defines us cannot be seen. We cannot see echothers personalities, minds and hearts in and of themselves. Our bodies, all being different, represents who we are as individuals. When you look at someone you are looking at their body, and you recognize them for who they are through their body. Our bodies are the tangible representatives of who we are. For without the body, we cannot see eachother, even though we are very much there. This brings the immorality of lust to light in a great way. When you look at someone, appreciating them for only their boby (checking them out), you do not aknowledge that that person has a name, has a personality, has a mind and train of thought, or has a heart to fall in love with. They are only bodies. Peices of meat that we use for our own cheap selfish sexual gratification. There is no greater insult than to imply that a human being is not a person... just an object.
Everything in our lives is built up of tangible representations. Love is complete oneness of mind, heart, and soul. That is what matters in love. But we cannot see that oneness even though it would absolutely be there. If who we are
(heart, mind, personality) is tangibly represented by our bodies, than how can we tangibly represent the invisibility of total human oneness (one mind, heart, and soul)? Sex is the tangible representative of love. You are tangibly expressing being one mind, one heart, and one soul, by being one body. Like being one heart and one soul, you are tangibly expressing total human connection by, quite litterally, being one body. If two are one mind, one heart, one soul, and one body, they are totally and permanantly committed to each other. For when something becomes one, it cannot become two again. And yet we abuse and mock this gift of being able to physically and tangibly express our love and total oneness by throwing it around as just another act for fun. As nothing but something to gain self-saticefying pleasure from. To love is to desire to be one with, to give up ones oneness and have two become one. It is self giving. But the way we treat love and sex is nothing but to take. To take our own selfish pleasure to saticefy our own desires.
To Be completely one with another means to be permanantly bonded to that other. For if you were one mind, no matter what fight, misunderstanding or change in dispossition, the other would be able to understand how it came to be so as to work or grow through it, and viceversa. If you were one heart, you would never have the desire to seperate those emotions that run parallel and one with eachother. No matter the emotional distress, the other would be able to understand that emotions disposition, and viceversa. If two were in love, they would never seperate for they are totally comitted to eachother. That total human comittment can very well be there, but like our personalities, it cannot be tangibly seen. Marrage is the tangible represenative of total human commitment.
If two were in love, they would be one heart, one mind and one soul. In this way, they would be totally and permanantly commited to each other. Sex is the tangible represenative of total oneness. Therefore two should not rightfully have sex if they are not representing a complete oneness between eachother. And if there is a complete oneness between eachother, they are totally and permanantly commited to echother. So, like we need sex to tangibly express that oneness (because we as humans are flawed enough to need tangibility to be absolutely sure of that love and that oneness), we also must need marrage to tangibly represent that total human commitment (because we as humans are flawed enough to need tangibility to be absolutely sure of that truth of commitment).
We live in a tangible life. If we need tangibility in some things, than dont pretent we dont need tangibility in all things.
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